This week has helped remind me that healing really isn’t straightforward. Each day requires an unwavering commitment to learning how to value yourself, even when you don’t feel like it. This journey can be different for everyone, but the key is to remember that we are always able to return to our cause, despite our internal ups and downs.
When I talk about our “cause”, I’m referring to the reason you decided to embark on this journey in the first place. Why are you dedicating time and effort to yourself? For me, I want to finally live a life that is whole and at peace. To feel safe and secure enough within myself. To have the life I know I deserve.
Why self-hate will lead to self-destruction.
How did I get to this mission, you may ask? All my past efforts came and went. Nothing I had previously learned stuck, and I think the reason for this was that, deep down, I still hated myself. I subconsciously believed I wasn’t worth healing.
The pain of completely devaluing and unloving ourselves can be so constant that we willingly harm ourselves emotionally, spiritually, and physically. And I did.
I had been broken down to nothing. I honestly felt that if this was what my life was going to be like, then I didn’t want it. It was in this surrender that the fog parted just long enough for a moment of clarity to emerge. An unknown slither of self-love allowed me to ultimately realise that my true purpose is to myself.
When Is Enough, Enough?
When we finally say no, and feel it deep in our core. We only get one shot at this life, and we can’t let it be like this. We deserve more.
It took an inner awakening of seeing how much I had abandoned my own happiness to realise I needed to actually love and value myself unconditionally for anything else in my life to change.
Why Loving Yourself Can Be Hard, Even If It Helps Show You How To Value Yourself.
For many of us who have spent the majority of our lives repeatedly beating ourselves down and allowing others to do the same, unconditional self-worth and love can be one of the hardest things to build.
“How to value yourself?” can seem like an impossible question. Recognising that we’re actually worth and meant to be put first can feel unnatural. Almost wrong.
But this is a sign that it needs to be done. Until I was willing to let in the “idea” that I’m already more than good enough for myself, as myself, I knew I would always attract people and situations that cemented this mistreatment of me too.
How to value yourself? Its all about the mindset.
Permanently changing your mindset is a challenging task. It requires hard work, dedication, and perseverance. But I believe when you’re ready and willing to connect to yourself on such a profound level as this, your mind has already shifted.
I have never taken self-improvement and growth as seriously as I have now because I have finally accepted this concept. This doesn’t mean it’s plain sailing—not at all.
It is tough!
I have daily self-doubts and fears that sometimes cause me to second-guess myself, my progress, and my ability to become who I want to be. But now, I am able to remember all that I have spoken about here and reignite my motivation.
It truly does start and end with you.
Will you start putting yourself first? If so, why? I’d love to hear your story. Let me know in the comments or just fill out a Contact form!
To learn more about why it’s difficult to love yourself, check out Why is Self-Love so Difficult?. Loving others is easy, but loving… | by Desiree Peralta | Invisible Illness | Medium
